How to forgive

Holy book of bible lays lot of emphasis on forgiveness. When Lord Jesus christ was being crucified in the cross, he was experiencing extreme physical and mental pain, yet he did not develop any hatred and anger towards those who were abusing him, making fun of him. He kept on saying "God, forgive them for they do not know what they are doing". It is not easy not to react when subjected to humiliation. Jesus christ was no ordinary soul. Ordinary people like you and me will develop hatred, jealousy, anger towards those who try to harm us physically or emotionally. Bible says unless we forgive those who have sinned against us, god will not forgive our sins. True, but the point here is how do we forgive those who have sinned against us. Can we forgive so long as we carry negative emotions like hatred, anger, Jealousy inside of us. The answer is no. As a matter of fact, we not only carry negative emotions, we nurture these thoughts day after day, month after month, year after year. We wait for the right opportunity to take revenge with the person who caused harm to us. The longer we carry negative thoughts, the more the damage to our body system. Negative emotions are like steam in the pressure cooker. If the steam is not allowed to escape, the pressure inside the cooker will mount slowly and ultimately will increase to such an extent that it will explode. It is beacuse of this reason, the safety valve is fitted in the cooker which helps release the extra steam from time to time to ease pressure inside the cooker . If negative emotions are not released from the body in time, it may cause irreparable damage to the body. What do we do to get rid of negative emotions. Simple. Release the negative emotions like safety valve. There is a saying. Your child suffers for what your boss does to you. This means, if your boss shouts at you in office, you go home and shout at your wife. Your wife in turns beats your child and the child cries. What is happening here is each one is releasing negative emotions to somebody else. This works fine as long as emotions dont flow in reverse direction meaning you don't shout back at your boss or your wife does not shout back at you in retaliation. But think of the consequences if you shout back at your boss, you may lose job. If your wife shouts back at you, your relationship with your wife gets effected. It is dangerous and risky. I wont recommend it. I would like to share with you one method which is safe and healthy. Lock yourself up in a room. Take an object like table, chair etc. Keep this object in front of you. Now imagine if this object is the person who is your enemy. Bring out all your negative emotions in front of this object. If you feel like hitting, by all means hit the object. If you feel like shouting, shout at the top of your voice. Make sure that nobody is watching you while you are doing this act. After you finish doing this, which will not last for more than one or two minutes, you will feel relieved of all tensions. You will be at peace with yourself.

You will feel as if you are floating in the air.