How to forgive

Holy Bible lays lot of emphasis on forgiveness. When Lord Jesus Christ was being crucified at the cross, he was experiencing excruciating pain both physically and mentally. Yet, he did not develop any hatred towards those who were hurling stones at him, abusing him or making fun of him. He said, father, forgive them for they do not know what they are doing. Jesus Christ was no ordinary soul. It is impossible for ordinary people like you and me not to develop negative emotions like hatred, anger, Jealousy etc when subjected to humiliation. We not only develop negative emotions but even nurture it inside of us. We wait for the right opportunity to strike back. The longer we carry negative emotions in our body, the more it causes damage to our organs. We slowly detach ourselves from outside world. Our performance at workplace degrades, our relationship with peers, friends, relatives gets soured. We go into depression. Our life becomes miserable. Negative emotions are like steam in the pressure cooker. If steam is not allowed to escape out of pressure cooker, it will cause pressure mounting inside the cooker slowly ultimately resulting in explosion. Safety valve is built to release extra steam from inside chamber to ease pressure. Like safety valve, we must release negative thoughts. We cannot forgive the person so long as we carry negative emotions of him inside our body. But the point is how do we release negative emotions. It is very dangerous to release negative emotions in front of another person. It may hurt his sentiments which might escalate tension further. I have some thoughts to share with you on this. Lock yourself in a room. Keep an object in front of you. This object could be anything say a chair or a table. Now think of this object as the person whom you hate most. Bring out all your anger, pain,hatred from inside of you. If you feel like hitting the object, by all means do it. If you feel like shouting, shout at the top of your voice. Make sure you are alone in the room and nobody is looking at you while you are doing this act.After one or two minutes when all your negative thoughts are ejected out of your body, you will feel relieved of tension. You will be at peace with yourself. You will feel as if you are floating in the air.