Try to read body language

When you meet a person of same sex or opposite sex for business alliance or matrimonial alliance, you need to understand the person you are meeting thoroughly so as to avoid disappointments or frustrations at a later date. Generally, during such meetings, the person you meet tries to project himself as the best person available. His true self does not get revealed. That is when reading the body language comes to your rescue. Rather than what he says, the body language tells you what he has in mind. The tone, the eye contact, body posture, Gesture, facial expression etc say something to you. If the body language is not in synch with what the person speaks, the person is hiding facts. You are not conscious of your body language while you are talking. It comes naturally to you as a reflex action. It is easy to manipulate what you say, but it is very difficult to manipulate your body language which is the true reflection of your intentions. Let us see how to read body language.

1> Hands-- When you meet and shake hands with the other person, just notice how he is holding your hands.If it is too tight and gripping, it means he is of dominating nature. If the other person holds your fingers instead of full hand, it means he lacks self confidence. If the person is holding your hand for a longer period than is necessary, he or she is physically attracted to you. If the hand is cold and loose, it means that the person lacks commitment and self determination
2> Eye Contact--- If the person to whom you are talking does not look straight into your eyes and constantly glances sideways, it means he is not interested in your conversation. If the person flickers or blinks his eyes too frequently while talking, it means he is nervous. If he makes short eye contacts in between, it means either he is shy natured or he is lying.
3> Posture--- Posture tells a great deal about the person. If he is sitting upright with shoulders slightly leaning backwards, it means he is interested in conversion. If the person is sitting cross legged during conversation, it means he is defensive and over protective.
4> Facial Expression—Face is the mirror of the internal feelings of a person. If the face is glowing, it means he is free from anxieties. If the face is grim, it means he is tired, worried or sick
5> Movement of Hand—While the person is speaking, look at his hands. If his hands are outstretched, it means he is accommodative and confident. If he holds his hands tightly to his chest, it means he lacks self confidence The pace at which he speaks also gives an indication of his personality. If he speaks too fast or speaks in high pitched tone, he lacks maturity.

If you are interviewing a person for a job,it is very important for you to know whether the person you are interviewing is genuine or not. Look at the body language after you ask him a particular question. He will be lying if

1>He changes position of his arms or legs before answering
2>His voice pitch suddenly changes
3>He starts speaking faster
4>He fumbles or clears his throat
5>He starts using fillers such as “Um”, “Uh”, "I mean" etc
6>He reacts with hostility or indignation

The art of reading body language can be cultivated which will prove to be of immense benefits to you.

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